All relationships have difficulty. All couples argue. So how do you know when you're dealing with normal human friction — and when you're dealing with something that is genuinely harming you? This is the question that keeps women stuck longer than almost anything else.

Nobody goes into a marriage thinking it will end. But there is a difference between hoping for a good future and being prepared for a difficult one. Most women are taught the first thing and not the second. That gap is where they get hurt.

There's a particular kind of confusion that doesn't feel like confusion. It feels like you. Like something is wrong with you. That confusion has a name — and the moment you learn it, everything changes.